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I hold space for people’s growth, grief, transformation, and healing.
A client once said “The words to describe Heather and what she offers simply don’t exist. Words are based off what we already know – Heather offers insight into that which we have yet to discover.” It’s true – I don’t know exactly how to define my one-on-one work because all of the typical words seem insufficient.
I am part coach, part spiritual director, part midwife and part healer.
I listen deeply and intuitively to your story, invite you into a place of exploration, and offer gentle guidance as you plunge your own depths. I walk alongside you as you seek to live more authentically, more courageously, and with more resilience and strength.
“My time with Heather has become deeply important for how I reflect on my place in the world. I originally sought out coaching after being accepted into a Doctorate programme, but something was ‘off’ about it for me. With Heather I got so much more than I bargained for! She has helped me to integrate ideas, experiences, memories and dreams that have felt too ephemeral to grasp, let alone make sense of on my own. It is turning into an unexpected voyage into myth and spirit and divine bone-level memory.” – Sas Petherick, coach, UK
Our conversation may involve a guided meditation that will open you to your intuitive knowing, it may invite you to explore the inherited trauma and/or wisdom that came down through your lineage, or it may involve an exploration of what messages your body is sending you. We’ll move fluidly between your desires and your fears and we’ll create safe space for both. We’ll unpack the stories you’re carrying with you and we’ll check in about which ones might be holding you back.
My coaching conversations have been described as “conversational labyrinths”. With compassion and non-judgement, I will guide you to the centre of the metaphorical labyrinth, inviting you to release what doesn’t serve you on the way in, receive what is waiting for you at your own centre, and return with courage and strength to offer your gift to the world.
You are stronger and wiser than you think you are. You have what it takes to travel this journey. All you need is a guide who can help you take the necessary steps.
I work with diverse clients – a human rights lawyer in Zimbabwe, a psychologist in Los Angeles, a minister in Canada, a photographer in Kentucky, and a doctor in Belgium (just to name a few) – and have helped each of them step more courageously onto the path that calls them forward. Like you, each of these people is seeking a more authentic and courageous life.
I will help you find freedom, clarity, and courage as you take a closer look into your own life.
The personal space that Heather holds during the coaching sessions is authentic, warm and soulful. I was going through a confusing moment in my career, I felt empty, uninspired but every coaching session with her, left me feeling both vulnerable and inspired. Every week, I got out of my shell and worked towards a better and happier version of myself. She encouraged me to follow my wild hearts desire, she allowed me to cry and just be and listen to my heart cry and desire.” – Connie Nawaigo Zhuwarara, Human Rights Lawyer, Zimbabwe
Coaching sessions with me will be deeply personal, authentic, and sometimes emotional. I’ll listen to your stories, honour your wisdom, and help you find your path. I will be kind to you, and I will also challenge you to go deeper into your truth and creativity and further in your growth than you’ve gone before.
In our sessions, we always focus on YOUR story, so each client-coach relationship is unique.
I can help you:
- work through fear and resistance
- cut through the noise and find your own voice
- help you tap into your spiritual self
- understand where your personal blindspots are
- work through challenging relationships
- understand your shadow (those things you’d rather keep in the dark that are probably holding you back)
- examine the stories you carry from your lineage
- explore how complex social structures like patriarchy or racism may contribute to your limitations
- make better decisions
- improve your communication skills
- feel less lonely
- unpack the social conditioning that helps shape your place in the world
- step forward as a leader and change-maker
I am uniquely qualified, not simply because I have worked in many forms of leadership and human resource development (as a regional director in the government and a national director in non-profit) and have lead and coached diverse teams in meaningful work, but because I have sat beside my dying mother, walked the path with a suicidal loved one, held the hands of my overwhelmed teenage daughters, and sat among some of the most marginalized people in the world. I know how to walk alongside people, letting them live in their own stories while graciously supporting their growth.
In all of my life’s work, I have been practicing what it means to hold space for people.
“Heather, you have held space for me – in a gracious and loving way. During a time when I most needed someone at my back – while I was working through traumatic memories. You were never frightened, not even at the most horrifying stories or the deepest despair. Without your support, I might not have survived.
“And as we are separated by many thousand miles, I am very grateful that you have been holding space for me in the digital realm. Through your voice in coaching calls, through your writing in responding to my writing… Your presence is a true gift for so many of us.” – Michaela Sieh, medical doctor & consultant, Belgium
My coaching work is informed by my training and international work in The Art of Hosting, The Circle Way, and narrative coaching. All of these practices have taught me how to listen with deep attention, how to ask meaningful questions, and how to offer a container to hold complex emotions and stories.
In our sessions, we always focus on YOUR story, so each client-coach relationship is unique.
My work is trauma-informed, so although I am not a therapist (and may refer you elsewhere if a therapist is what you need), I will hold space for the trauma that may come up when we tap into your fears and old stories.
In my work with clients, I am committed to examining both personal responsibility and social conditioning. I don’t believe in what’s commonly taught in self-help literature – that it’s only our thoughts that hold us back. I believe that we are complex beings and we cannot separate our stories from the way that we have been impacted by sexism, racism, homophobia, classism, economic injustice, colonialism, militarism, ethnocentrism, anthropocentrism. We are all intersectional beings, and any self-examination that eliminates these social structures can only take us part way.
In my work with clients, we explore the whole picture of who you are and what has shaped you.
I believe deeply in the holistic nature of our lives, and have become more and more aware that simply talking about things is rarely sufficient to heal wounds, shift blocks, process grief, or build resilience. Together, we will explore what other practices you may need in your life which will support the work you do in coaching sessions. These may be body healing work, movement practices, intuitive art-journaling, mandala-making, etc.
One of my greatest gifts is the ability to see the potential in other people and to help them see it too. During a session with me, you may be surprised to uncover a truth you didn’t know was there.
I am deeply committed to diversity and inclusion in my work and I will do my best to adapt my one-on-one work in order to suit your unique needs and to honour your unique story. If you have a limitation due to a disability, for example, please contact me to see how we might be able to create a way of working together that puts your needs at the centre.
“Heather has been extremely inspirational and supportive of my journey as a young woman and a young leader. She has pushed me further than anyone. She speaks from the heart and truly has a passion for assisting you on your own journey. I consider her an amazing role-model as well as an incredible friend.” – Qualla Parman
I can do one-time coaching if you need to work through a specific tough spot, but to get through the really juicy truths that want to emerge, long-term coaching is most effective. One hour-long session costs $110 CAD. Three sessions costs $295 CAD. Book me for six sessions plus email coaching in between, and you’ll pay $550 CAD. (Note: relevant taxes (GST) included in all prices listed.)
(Note: These prices have recently been changed from USD to CAD. Though they may look higher than they were, they’re actually lower, due to our declining currency.)
I do most of my coaching work via Skype or telephone, so we can work together no matter where you live in the world. I have a great deal of inter-cultural experience (it’s one of my greatest loves), and so (as long as you speak English) that doesn’t need to be a barrier to our working together.
You need to find the coach who’s right for you. I may or may not be that one. (If not, I may be able to help you find someone who is.) To start with, let’s have an exploratory conversation and you can decide after that. (No high-pressure sales tactics on my part.)
NOTE: I am not taking new coaching clients at this time. Check back in Fall 2017.