IMPORTANT UPDATE
As of April 2024, my blog has moved over to Substack where I’m co-hosting A Tender Space (together with my business partner at Centre for Holding Space). You can find my new writing plus podcast episodes there, or sign up below to get them in your inbox.
Here’s some of my earlier writing…
What do you do with your flaws and frailty?
Much too late last night, I finished reading Floor Sample, Julia Cameron's autobiography. Many of you will know Julia Cameron as the author of The Artist's Way and many other well-loved books on creativity and spirituality. What struck me, as I closed the book and...
Trust the wisdom that comes
This morning I rode my bike to work for the first time in about a week. Soccer schedules and grad dinners and ceremonies kept getting in the way, and so I road the bus for a few days. Yesterday, on the bus ride to work, I found myself filled with all kinds of sadness...
How to make a 14 year old girl very, very happy
(Well, at least MY 14 year old girl. I can't vouch for yours.) 1. Encourage her to begin living out her "I want to be a fashion designer when I grow up" dream a little early by designing her own junior high grad dress. 2. Offer to sew it with her. 3. Don't change your...
My apologies to the beautiful creatures in the Gulf
My apologies to the beautiful creatures who have been killed, covered in oil, or forced to watch their habitat be destroyed by this massive oil spill. My apologies for being complicit in a system that is so tolerant of an addiction to oil that we allow oil companies...
It brings out the Mama Bear in me
When we birth our children, we also birth a protective instinct that bubbles up in us and can nearly consume us in those dark times when our children may be in danger. It's the Mama (or Papa) Bear gene. Mostly it lays dormant until the tiny seed of a child begins to...
Strong back, soft belly
"Bring your vulnerability, your tenderness, your fear. Bring your questions - bring the things that puzzle you. Be prepared to hold ambiguity - to sit with the 'not-knowing'. Open your heart and your mind to yourself and to the other people in the room." That may not...
Where the wisdom leads
I don't remember the question that we were supposed to discuss at our table group, but I remember where it lead us. One of the women at the table was the newly appointed head of a women's program at a university. She was wrestling with where she needed to lead the...
Feel the fear and then take the step
We might think that knowing ourselves is a very ego-centered thing, but by beginning to look so clearly and so honestly at ourselves—at our emotions, at our thoughts, at who we really are—we begin to dissolve the walls that separate us from others. Somehow all of...
The week that changed me
My head, heart and body are full of the memories of last week at ALIA. I have been changed. I have been transformed by the many people who brought their vulnerability, their longings, their spirits, their truths, their hurts, and their gifts from all over the world to...
Trusting the fall
It would be impossible to wrap words around what the experience of ALIA has been for me so far. It's just too big to fit on a blog. Some day I hope that I can share some of the powerful moments that have shaken me up, broken me open, and sent me spiraling into a big...
Shawnigan Lake, B.C.
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