IMPORTANT UPDATE
As of April 2024, my blog has moved over to Substack where I’m co-hosting A Tender Space (together with my business partner at Centre for Holding Space). You can find my new writing plus podcast episodes there, or sign up below to get them in your inbox.
Here’s some of my earlier writing…
Walking each other home
I had an experience earlier this week that won't leave me alone. This is my first attempt at giving meaning to something that I may still be processing weeks from now... I had left my vehicle parked on the street and was walking toward the restaurant where I was...
On grief, longing, and intimacy
Sometimes grief comes like a runaway truck. You can see it careening down the highway toward you, but you don’t have enough time to get out of the way before it flattens you. Sometimes it’s a slow moving train, and you’re stuck at the crossing, impatiently waiting for...
Celebrating small victories together
Yesterday, for the first time in the twenty-five years since I owned my first vehicle, I figured out how to change a burnt out lightbulb on my van’s turn signal. After that, I changed the broken windshield wiper. And in both cases, I’d bought the right ones for my...
Holding Space for the Shadow: my recent retreat, the U.S. election, and what both teach about the shadow
I was on a fourteen hour train ride between Brisbane and Sydney the day the U.S. election was sealing the fate of the country for the next four years. I’d chosen train travel over flight because, after the intensity of facilitating two sold out retreats and a one-day...
The long journey to healing
As a coach and facilitator, I have the honour and privilege of walking alongside people on the journey to healing and transformation. As I hold space for them, they teach me many things. One of the most important things I've learned in this work is that the journey...
What kind of leadership is needed for our time?
“Can’t you just give us clear direction so we know what’s expected of us?” That question was asked of me ten years ago by a staff person who was frustrated with my collaborative style of leadership. He didn’t want collaboration - he simply wanted direction and...
Coming undone in the hardware store
Starting October 1st, I'll be teaching a new online writing course called Open Heart, Moving Pen. Here's a little of my own openhearted writing from this past weekend... Sometimes you come undone in the heating vent aisle at the hardware store. It's a simple decision...
When you’re afraid you’ll say the wrong thing
My baby died before I got to hold him in my arms. I’d been in the hospital for three weeks, trying to save my third pregnancy, but then one morning I went downstairs for my twice-daily ultrasound and found out he had died while I slept. Then came the horrible and...
Going down to the bone
I am going down to the bone. A deep cleanse, a stripping away - like a diamond cutter chipping away the grit to reveal the sparkle. This week, there was a large dumpster parked in front of my house. In went the old couches whose springs no longer held their shape....
Inspired by Dr. Seuss: A mandala journal prompt for the liminal space
Sometimes, when you’ve read too many deep thinkers and thought too many deep thoughts, you just have to go back to Dr. Seuss for some clarity. While writing the first three chapters of my book on holding space in the last few weeks, I was puzzling over how to describe...
Shawnigan Lake, B.C.
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