IMPORTANT UPDATE
As of April 2024, my blog has moved over to Substack where I’m co-hosting A Tender Space (together with my business partner at Centre for Holding Space). You can find my new writing plus podcast episodes there, or sign up below to get them in your inbox.
Here’s some of my earlier writing…
On holding space when there is an imbalance in power or privilege
“...whenever I dehumanize another, I necessarily dehumanize all that is human---including myself.” - from the book Anatomy of Peace This week, I’ve been thinking about how we hold space when there is an imbalance in power or privilege. This has been a long-time...
Just keep going deeper
"Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being. Do you desire to construct a vast and lofty fabric? Think first about the foundations of humility. The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation." - Saint Augustine Since returning from my trip to...
What the circle holds
All week, I’ve been trying to write a piece about The Circle Way, but nearly every effort ends on the virtual cutting room floor. How do you write about something that has radically altered the course of your life, that has changed nearly every relationship in your...
A story about fruity tea and generational shame
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.” - Brené Brown I like fruity tea. Passionate peach, blueberry bliss, raspberry riot - you name it, I probably like it. But at some point in my life, I picked up...
On letting go, forgiving, and healing our wounds
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” - Viktor Frankl After last week’s post about serving as wounded healers, I received a...
Serving the world as wounded healers
“In a futile attempt to erase our past, we deprive the community of our healing gift. If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame, our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others.” - Brennan Manning On Sunday I sat in a circle of wounded...
When is helping the wrong thing to do?
“It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.” ― Mahatma Gandhi “Sometimes helping is an act of violence.” That was one of many thought-provoking things Peter Block said in a...
On creating spaciousness and honouring the neutral zone
"Treating ourselves like appliances that can be unplugged and plugged in again at will or cars that stop and start with the twist of a key, we have forgotten the importance of fallow time and winter and rests in music. We have abandoned a whole system of dealing with...
A special gift to help you make deeper connections
“Is it too much to ask, to live in a world where our human gifts go toward the benefit of all? Where our daily activities contribute to the healing of the biosphere and the well-being of other people?” ― Charles Eisenstein I have been reminded, again and again,...
How to hold space for yourself first
Anytime we can listen to true self and give it the care it requires, we do so not only for ourselves but for the many others whose lives we touch. - Parker Palmer, Let your Life Speak When I shared my post about what it means to hold space for people and it went...
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