Holding Space – Coach/Facilitator Program

A unique online program that teaches
the fine art of holding space

Holding space – a skill we all need.

What do you do when a friend has lost a child and you can’t ease their grief? Or when your partner loses her job and you can’t resolve it for her? Or a client has to make a big decision and you can’t make it for him? Or your church or community group decides to close its doors and there is loss written on everyone’s faces? Or a group you’re facilitating is in conflict and can’t see their way through to resolution?

Though you feel invested in all of these situations, the outcome in each of them is outside of your responsibility and control.

The best that you can do is hold space for the people involved.

 

 

Note: The next program will begin in January 2018. Registration is now open.

Holding space isn’t easy and it can make us feel powerless. We want to fix things, give good advice, control the outcome, or avoid the conversation all together.

It all begins in the liminal space…

The space in between stories is the liminal space. In anthropology, a liminal space is a threshold, an interim space of ambiguity or disorientation that occurs in the middle stage of rituals, when participants no longer hold their pre-ritual status but have not yet transitioned to the status they will hold when the ritual is complete. In liminal space we are between identities, between who we once were and who we are becoming, like the chrysalis stage between caterpillar and butterfly.

Grief, transition, loss, birth, divorce, trauma, job loss, bankruptcy, marriage, betrayal, relocation, graduation, conflict – nearly every human experience has within it some element of liminal space. The liminal space is a space of openheartedness, when we are raw, vulnerable, and exposed. In order to survive without further wounding, we need a container that will hold us with gentleness and strength, without short-circuiting the process or forcing us into the wrong outcome.

Holding space is what we do in the liminal space when we walk alongside another person (or ourselves) on a journey without judging, fixing, belittling, or shaping the outcome. While supporting their boundaries and protecting our own, we offer unconditional support, compassion, and gentle guidance.

Become a Holding Space practitioner

The Holding Space Coach/Facilitator Program is a unique offering for all those who are in relationships where they regularly hold space for other people.

Whether you are a…

  • hospice worker
  • manager
  • pastor
  • teacher
  • elder
  • facilitator
  • life coach
  • parent
  • nurse
  • social worker
  • artist
  • day care worker
  • consultant
  • doctor
  • yoga teacher
  • community organizer
  • social justice worker
  • friend
  • chaplain
  • therapist
  • grief counselor
  • volunteer coordinator or
  • human resource professional

…there’s something in the program for you.

In order to hold space for others in our lives, we have to learn to hold space for ourselves first. When we neglect our own needs, we risk burnout, addiction, and other unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Join a global community

Starting January 8, 2017, join me, Heather Plett, for a unique online program you can take from the comfort of your own home. During the course, you’ll have the opportunity to connect with me and other participants from around the world via video conferencing and a private Facebook group.

Holding space has been at the core of my work for many years. For seven years, I’ve been doing it, studying it, and writing about it full-time as a coach, facilitator, speaker, and teacher. Before that, I was learning about it and growing my skills in multiple leadership roles in government and non-profit. Find out more about me and what qualifies me to teach this program. 

“This is an amazing course. We dive deep and hold each other bravely. If your heart longs for connection with the beauty of life lived in truth then you will find challenge, fulfilment and joy in this course. It is nothing less than a vision of a new humanity.”
– Helena del Pino, minister and yoga teacher, England

Modular learning to meet your needs.

The Holding Space Coach/Facilitator Program is broken down into five modules. Depending on what you’re looking for (ie. basic skills, coaching skills, facilitation skills, or leadership skills), you can sign up for the stream that includes the modules you need. Scroll down to find out more.

To find out what will be offered in each module, click on module bars below.

  • Each module will run for 4-8 weeks (see links for more details on each module).
  • At the beginning of the module, you will receive a pdf version of a workbook with two or three lessons per week. The lessons will be largely in print form, with some videos interspersed. Note: We are working on increasing accessibility by making all written lessons available in downloadable audio files.
  • Each lesson will include a teaching on a particular topic, plus exercises and writing prompts.
  • There will also be bonus material in each module – video interviews with thought leaders on the topic, additional resource recommendations, etc.
  • There will be a 1.5 hour integration call each week where we’ll discuss the lessons of the week (which will be recorded, in case you miss it). Note: You’ll have 2 options for the calls – one in the morning (central time zone) and one in the evening, to accomodate as many time zones as possible. Current times for calls are Thursdays at 10 a.m. central and 7 p.m. central. (Compare your timezone to Canada/central.)
  • There will be lots of support in the program. You will be assigned to one of three mentors (who’ve been through the program) who will be available to you if you have questions and/or want to work through some material that challenges you. You will also be assigned a “course buddy” – someone else in the program with whom you can connect with regularly as you work through the material. And you’ll be included in a private Facebook group for conversations with the group.
  • In addition to the mentor connections, I will be available for regular office hours via Zoom/Skype/phone.
Module 1 - Holding Space - The Basics >>

Module 1 will run for eight weeks, January 8 – March 2, 2018 with two options for an 1.5 hour integration call (on Zoom) each week. The call options are (in central time zone): Thursday at 10:00 a.m or 7:00 p.m.

The workbook (which you’ll receive on the first day) will address the following questions:

  • What does it mean to “hold space”?
  • What is “liminal space”?
  • What are the core principles of holding space?
  • What gets in the way of our ability to hold space?
  • What’s the opposite of holding space?
  • How do I get past the feeling that I’m “doing nothing”?
  • How do I adapt the practice of holding space to different situations?
  • How do I help people erect boundaries without taking their power away?
  • How do I let go of the outcome?
  • How do I resist the urge to fix and give advice?
  • When is intervention necessary?
  • Is it possible to hold space for someone who doesn’t want you to?
  • What is the place of ritual and ceremony?
  • What is emotional labour?
  • What is spiritual bypassing?
Module 2 - Holding Space for Yourself >>

Module 2 will run for four weeks, March 5 – 30, 2018, with two options for an 1.5 hour integration call (on Zoom) each week. The call options are (in central time zone): Thursday at 10:00 a.m or 7:00 p.m.

The workbook (which you’ll receive on the first day) will address the following questions:

  • What’s the journey to authenticity and how does it help me deepen my practice of holding space?
  • What personal practices help me maintain a balance of strength and compassion?
  • How do I get my ego out of the way?
  • How do I avoid taking on another person’s baggage, emotions, etc.?
  • How do I learn to sit with discomfort?
  • What do I do when I find myself triggered by what the other person says or does?
  • How do I erect healthy boundaries that don’t damage my relationships?
  • How do I get over my mistakes in holding space for others?
  • When should I walk away?
  • What are some body practices that help me hold space?
  • Do I need to be authentic in front of everyone or can I be selective?
  • How do I let go of self-limiting talk?
  • How am I projecting my needs onto the person I’m holding space for?
  • What if I burn out?
  • How do I ask for help?
  • How do I ask others to hold space for me?
  • What if my attempts to hold space leave me deeply wounded?
  • What are my unmet needs and how do they impact my ability to hold space?
Module 3 - Holding Space in Community, with The Circle Way as the Container >>

Module 3 will run for 4 weeks, April 2 – 27, 2018with two options for an 1.5 hour integration call (on Zoom) each week. The call options are (in central time zone): Thursday at 10:00 a.m or 7:00 p.m.

The workbook (which you’ll receive on the first day) will address the following questions:

  • How do I incorporate the principles of holding space in my group facilitation work?
  • What is The Circle Way and how will it help me hold space?
  • What are the principles and practices of The Circle Way?
  • What are the core leadership roles of The Circle Way and how do I practice them?
  • How does shared leadership help in community settings?
  • What is “the shadow” and how does it disrupt the circle?
  • What are some practical ways that The Circle Way can transform conversations in my community?
  • How do I work with co-hosts?
  • How does the spiral of authenticity fit in circle? How do individuals & community overlap?
  • How might ritual help a community move through loss?
  • How do I find others to help me hold space in community?
Module 4 - Holding Space in Complexity >>

Module 4 will run for April 30 – May 25, 2018with two options for an 1.5 hour integration call (on Zoom) each week. The call options are (in central time zone): Thursday at 10:00 a.m or 7:00 p.m.

The workbook (which you’ll receive on the first day) will address the following questions:

  • How do I hold space when there is trauma involved?
  • How do I hold “brave space” when their are complex issues like race and gender being discussed?
  • How do I address power imbalances without allowing them to control the outcome?
  • Whose voices/stories should be at the centre?
  • How do I know when it’s the right time for intervention (ie. disrupting an unhealthy conversation, challenging racist comments, etc.)
  • How do I hold space for conflict?
  • How do I create a space where marginalized voices are centred? And how do I de-centre whiteness, able-bodies, etc.? And how do I support those resistant to de-centring their own voices?
  • What do I do when things fall apart?
  • How does our colonialist past get in the way of our ability to hold space?
  • How do I protect the vulnerable without taking their autonomy/sovereignty away?
  • What if people walk away?
  • How do I challenge people without shaming them?
  • What do we do with toxic people?
Module 5 - Holding Space One-on-one (as a coach, counsellor, spiritual director, etc.) >>

Module 5 will run for 4 weeks, May 28 – June 22, 2018with two options for an 1.5 hour integration call (on Zoom) each week. The call options are (in central time zone): Thursday at 10:00 a.m or 7:00 p.m.

The workbook (which you’ll receive on the first day) will address the following questions:

  • How do I incorporate the principles of holding space in my one-on-one work (ie. coaching, therapy, counselling, etc.)?
  • How can I support people without trying to control the outcome?
  • What is the goal of coaching?
  • What are some of the pitfalls?
  • How do I sit with brokenness?
  • What about when someone is stuck in unhealthy patterns?
  • What are my limits as a coach?
  • What if someone keeps spiralling through the same stories?
  • When do I share my own story?
  • How do I deepen my listening?
  • What are some tools and resources I can use?
  • What in-the-moment practices help me stay present and balanced in the middle of an intense coaching conversation?
  • How do I incorporate body work into my coaching?

In the liminal space, there is discomfort and ambiguity.
Learning to sit with that discomfort is some of the hardest work we’ll have to do when we hold space for others.

Who will benefit from this program?

While it is called a “coach/facilitator program”, it is meant for anyone who holds space for others. Those who hold space daily might benefit from the more intensive programs, while those who wish to improve the way they hold space for their family members, friends, or community may want to sign up for the basics.

This program is for you if you:

  • want to grow your skills in holding space for others and yourself,
  • are enthusiastic about working in potentially complex and emotional spaces,
  • have done personal development work in growing your spiritual & emotional maturity,
  • are self-directed in working through your own course material.

Who WON’T benefit from this program?

This program is not for you if you:

  • want easy answers,
  • have high anxiety when life gets messy,
  • have done no prior personal development work, and/or
  • are not self-motivated and require hand-holding to get through course material.

“This course has been and continues to be an amazing opportunity to explore at a deeper level all aspects of myself. It is giving me tools to add to my ‘kitbag’ that will enable fantastic facilitation and hosting skills for practicing Holding Space, using the prinicples and practice of the Circle Way. Each week something new unfolds. We are held gently, supported warmly and encouraged to boldly go forth. I personally have never experienced an online course that has provided such amazing structure and support. Everything has been thought of. Its up to you how much or how little that you take from the learnings. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to be part of the very first online training.”

– Kerri Ann Lynch, Australia

What makes this program unique?

  • Unlike other programs, which provide training on either one-on-one coaching or group facilitation, this program combines elements of both, teaching you practices that will help you hold space in any setting.
  • There is recognition, in this program, that we are both individuals and communal beings. The work that we do in our personal growth will impact the work that we do in community settings, and vice versa.
  • Including a module on holding space for yourself offers you the opportunity to focus on your own personal growth and self-awareness, which will help you be of better support to others.
  • There is, in this program, a recognition of complexity and systemic issues at play in our lives. While some coaching programs focus on changing your beliefs so that you can change your life (ie. Law of Attraction), this program takes a look at the big picture and helps people see how they are impacted by the culture and systems that shape us.
  • This program offers useful tools and resources that will support you in holding space (ie. The Circle Way, labyrinths, mandalas, journal-writing, etc.). If you sign up for the entire program, you will have a toolbox of resources for retreats, workshops, community gatherings, coaching sessions, etc.

“I consider Heather’s work to be among the same elite category of those whom I admire and follow as True Revolutionaries and Trail Blazers such as Peter Senge, Otto Scharmer, Daniel Pink, Dr, Jane Vella, Howard Gardner, & Malcolm Gladwell.”
– Ali Javed Naqvi

Want a taste of what I’ve written and taught about holding space in recent years?

Choose from the following registration options:

Basic & Basic+

Module 1 or 1+2
to learn the basics of holding space.

Facilitator

Modules 1, 2, 3, and 4
to become a Holding Space Facilitator.

Coach

Modules 1, 2, 4, and 5
to become a Holding Space Coach.

Leader

Modules 1-5 to become a Holding Space Coach & Facilitator.

Here’s what you’ll get in each of the registration options:

Extra: Licensing Option

For an additional investment, you’ll get lifetime access to a toolkit of resources to use in your work.

All who register for the Facilitator, Coach, or Leader programs have the option of purchasing a license to use the following resources with their clients, community, etc.. Upon completion of the Holding Space program, you will be emailed a link where you can download pdfs of all resources, and mailed a binder full of hard-copy versions for easy photocopying. You’ll also be given a discount for a one-on-one coaching session with me, in case you want to explore how to use the resources.

Mandala Discovery: 30 mandala journaling prompts for self-discovery and personal growth. (Many can be adapted for group exercises.)

The Spiral Path: A Woman’s Journey to Herself – 21 lessons that use the labyrinth as a model for journeying inward.

50 Questions That Could Change Your Life – A toolbox of questions that generation conversation and self-discovery. Great for one-on-one work or group processes.

Pathfinder: A Creative Journal for Finding Your Way – a guide that will help you navigate your way to an authentic, wholehearted life.

A Soulful Year: A Mandala Planner – A yearly planner that uses mandalas as a creative way of planning and dreaming.

Lead with Your Wild Heart An intensive personal leadership program for women, about living boldly and authentically, from a place of feminine, holistic (mind, body, and soul) wisdom.

When we hold space with compassion and strength, we honour a person’s sovereignty and wholeness. We witness and create space for their healing, growth, and emergence. We change the world by changing how we connect
and build relationships.

Meet the Teacher

Heather Plett is the primary teacher in this program. As a writer, coach, facilitator, and speaker, she has been developing these concepts for many years. “Though I didn’t know what to call it at the time, I first learned to hold space in a three week stay in the hospital when I was trying to prolong my third pregnancy (which later ended in a stillbirth) back in 2000. While I was slowing down my life in order to hold physical space for my unborn son, I discovered that I also had the ability to hold emotional space for those who came to sit in my room. Everything has grown out of that experience.”

Meet the Mentors

Sharon Wichman

“While the content of Heather’s courses is always excellent, my favorite parts are the integration calls and Facebook groups. This is where we get to sit in her open, inviting presence and speak from our hearts with people from all over the globe.”

Joy Onyschak

There is an ‘Inner Yes’ around everything in this program for me and I am thrilled to support its growth. I see this work as a powerful agent that can expand perspectives, spread compassion & promote healing of individuals & community.”  

Rose Regier

“Heather’s way of weaving the lessons together with story and references make them captivating and effective. Once you’ve gone through this course, you can’t help but be changed.”

Meet the Administrator

Krista Folkers Dela Rosa is the administrator for the program. She’ll be your first point of contact if you have any questions about payments, registration, etc.. “I have had the privilege of being in a variety of spaces with Heather, personally and professionally, and have always found these times to have that unique magic of being gentle and safe AND challenging enough to promote deep growth. It is my honour to be able to ‘hold the edges’ of the container of Heather’s work administratively, in order to allow her and those she works with, to be their best selves and do their best work.”

Your Investment

Basic Skills (module 1) – $475 CAD (approx $389.50 USD) (or 3 payments of $178 CAD)

Basic + (modules 1+2) – $825 CAD (approx $667 USD) (or 3 monthly payments of $308 CAD)

Facilitator (modules 1-4) – $1425 CAD (approx. $1168 USD) (or 3 payments of $532 CAD)

Coach (modules 1, 2, 4, 5) – $1425 CAD (approx. $1168 USD) (or 3 payments of $532 CAD)

Leader (modules 1-5) – $1725 CAD (approx. $1414 USD) (or 3 payments of $644 CAD)

License for Holding Space resources (added cost) – $550 CAD (approx. $451 USD) (or 3 payments of $205 CAD)

Note: relevant taxes (GST) included in all costs listed above.

5% of all proceeds from this course will be donated to the school I support in Uganda, through the Uganda Kitgum Education Foundation, founded by my friend and former intern, Nestar Lakot Okella.

A limited number of scholarships are available (for half the registration cost). Click here to apply.
Deadline for application is November 15, 2017.

Questions? (click for Q&A) >>

Q. Is this a certification progam? Can I become a certified coach or facilitator?

A. No, at this time I have decided not to pursue certification for either the coach or facilitator program. I’ve gone back and forth on this, but in the end, I’m not sure I see the value of “certifying” people in a methodology such as this. You’ll gain a lot of good skills, but I don’t believe one program can ever include all of the skills a person needs for this complex and nuanced work.

Q. What’s the refund policy?

A. If you register, and then something comes up, you can request a refund (minus a 20% admin. fee) up until 2 days before the program starts. Since registration is limited and it won’t be possible to add people after the program starts, there won’t be refunds later.

Q. Will there be any opportunities for in-person learning?

A. I’ll be teaching parts of this program at various retreats (ie. Holding Space for Yourself and Holding Space for Others in Australia), and may plan an in-person retreat for registrants after the program is complete (details to come).

Q. What if I can’t make the calls? Will I miss much of the teaching?

A. The calls are meant for integration (ie. conversation with other participants, checking in with each other, clarification of complex issues, etc.) and I don’t plan to offer new teaching that isn’t included in the material. All calls will be recorded, so if you miss them, you can watch/listen later. Some who went through the program the first time said they felt a deep connection with the community even though they couldn’t make the calls and watched the recordings instead.

Q. Will this be offered again?

A. Yes, I plan to offer this program twice a year, starting in January and June.

Q. What do you mean by “practical experience”?

A. There will be some assignments where you’ll be encouraged to practice the learning in a real-time conversation. For example, during the coaching module, you’ll be encouraged to find a “client” with whom you can practice. And during the facilitation module, you’ll be supported in hosting a circle of your own. We will also set up a buddy system where you can meet with another participant (on Zoom or Skype) to practice with each other.

Registration is now open for Facilitator, Coach, and Leader programs
(Registration for Basics and Basics+ will open in early November.)

 

NOTE: If you are interested in in-person training that will be similar to this program, consider joining me in Australia in October 2017 for Holding Space for Yourself and Holding Space for Others (on back-to-back weekends, with a discounted offer if you register for both.)

Questions? Contact us and a member of the team will get back to you.

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